William Vickerman: Why not have the weddings within the same week or so? Guests who are traveling can come stay for a week and take in both weddings at once. I know this may seem kind of hectic as far as the both of you planning and running around taking care of last minute details goes, but it may be a good option if you both really truly want to get married in '09. If one of you(or both) go with a more low-key or small-ish wedding, no big deal then. Whatever you decide to go with just remember to relax, take some deep breaths, and enjoy the process...it can get overwhelming!...Show more
Alberto Kozub: as far as what to wear it goes like this the mother of the bride has first pick on the color she wants to wear then the grooms mom .the grooms parent's usally take care of the rehearsal dinner costs.somes times she will throw a shower for the women on the grooms side. during the wedding she sometimes helps light a candle with the mother of the bride.NO they are not! just another quest,remember this is your future husbands MOM! treat her with respect. you are going to family.please include them . and no don't push anyone around if you want a happy day! kc...Show more
Shelley Stevens: Mothers are supposed to light the candle they give to their son for the unity candle. They should not be pushed around by the bride or groom. They should wear something tactful to the wedding but it is their choice what to wear. They should be respected for bringing their son into the world and raising him.
Lonnie Jehle: Me and my ex boyfriend broke up about a month ago and I was really close to his family; especially his 3 sisters. One of his sisters is getting married this Saturday and my cousin who was supposed to go with me backed out of it. Anyway, my ex is one of the groomsmen and I really want to go to the wedding since I RSVPd already. My cousins said to take my new boyfriend but I don't think that would be appropriate. What do you ! think? Should I just go by myself?...Show more
Malissa P! orth: The MOG's role is to be gracious to the bride and the bride's family no matter how unreasonable or unpleasant they may be, and no matter what her personal feelings about the marriage, the bride, the wedding plans, the bride's mother's ideas of propriety, etc. She (as well as any other close relatives of the groom) should let the bride and her family know that they are ready and willing to help with things like addressing envelopes, calling people who haven't yet RSVP'd, writing "on behalf of" thank you letters, doing research, and so on. She should offer some specific services, not just a vague "let me know if you need anything." If you have a photographer, calligrapher, musician, etc in the family they may OFFER their professional services at a reduced rate, but may not take offense if the offer is declined. If she wishes, the MOG can offer to buy the cake, supply the wine, pick up the tab for postage, whatever. If there are conditions attached to her sponsorship, sh! e should make them clear when making the offer. For instance, you might want to qualify that to "any cake we choose together" instead of letting the bride assume that "anything goes" and at YOUR expense. In such cases, set a few guidelines (like white frosting, no nuts, no anchovies) and otherwise allow her to choose what she likes unless it is really, really over the top. She will probably not choose what you would wish her to choose, but humor her.She (as well as any other relatives of the groom) should cheerfully accept any indication from the bride or her family that they (the bride's side) would rather do something themselves, and not harbor ill will or resentment over such indications. She should not offer advice unless asked. Even then, her advice should be cautious and tactful rather than direct and frank. Now that we have clarified that the groom's family only involves themselves to the degree which the bride (or her family) invites them to do so -- NO ONE should a! llow themselves to be "pushed around" by the bride. Got that brides? Ge! tting married is no excuse to try to make people wear clothes they hate! If that's what you want to do, then get a job as costume designer for some Broadway pagaent. Otherwise, come to a consensus with people. You know, like I advised you FMIL to do about the cake? Give the ladies some general guidelines like "solid color blue, not floor length, long sleeves" and bear in mind that what she chooses will probably not be what you would choose for her. But unless she chooses something really really over the top, then humor her. Don't be a bossy little Hitler....Show more
Willa Holte: If parents financial help is notneeded, then I would say you only need a space of approx 3-4monthsin between weddings.Congrats
May Stands: maybe consider a destination wedding, in neither of your home states. have one wedding on sat and one on sun or fri. that way all you guest can attend both weddings and you would still both get to have you special day done how ever you want. you migh! t be able to reuse some pieces of each wedding and save some money for each of you. they reception place may also give you a discount if you are booking 2 weddings the same weekend
Cordia Fivecoat: My thought is..whoever decides and books their reception and such first..the other is responsible to give enough time.
Mayola Sylva: If you want out of town family members to attend both weddings then I would postpone one of them or have one in the spring and one in the fall so they have time to save up for more gifts, travel expenses, hotel, meals, etc. The closer together the weddings are the fewer family that will attend the second wedding.
Kaley Lappas: The parents of the groom often pay for and plan the rehearsal dinner but it's different for every wedding. Ask your daughter-in-law to be what she would like you to do. Maybe she'd like you to help with decorations or something. Usually the mother of the groom does not do to much. If you'd really like to do ! something maybe plan a surprise shower and invite family to it.
R! ayford Latz: You are not his religion would you convert to his if he's the one you love? I wouldn't.
Dan Seen: I have a friend's mom who got married same day as her sister's. And they were the only siblings. lol. They got married to two brothers too. . . I just said "to, two, too" in the same sentence! lolANYWAY! There's nothing wrong with it. Discuss it with her, and decide what you should do. If it's okay with YOU and HER, then go for it if there's no problems. . . then what would be stopping you?And I wish you all the happiness in the world with your fiance and your sis's too! ~,~...Show more
Mildred Pombo: I would have at least six months between the weddings to let people have time to save up for the next wedding. You just have to each decide who wants to get married in what time of the year.Congrats and good luck!
David Kuper: I think it's nice for the MOG to be involved in the planning if the MOB is. My MIL is so nice, I want her to be as involved a! s possible, but she's taking a back seat. We have asked her to act as a co-ordinator for the groom's guests. My fiance is foreign, so they are all coming in from abroad, so she is helping them get sorted on their end. It's a nice way for her to feel involved, even though she's far away.
Myron Leftwich: Congratulations! I would say 2 or 3 months in between. You got engaged first so you marry first I reckon. Think about these dates, these are all Saturdays for Spring and Summer next year:March: 7 14 21 28April: 4 11 18 25 May: 2 9 16 23 30June: 6 13 20 27July: 4 11 18 25 August: 1 8 15 22 29 What about if you have your wedding in either March or April and she has hers in June, July or August? That would work well for travelling relatives. Just send save the dates as soon as you have set the date so you both give people plenty of notice and they will be expecting two weddings. My advice would be to just help each other as much as you can. It can! potentially be a lot of fun for you two to plan your weddings together! so be patient with each other. Good luck!...Show more
Tijuana Tatsak: Though you may bring anyone you choose I agree that you may want to go to this one solo. It will be uncomfortable enough seeing your ex, I think it would be worse if you bring your new beau!Good luck!
Betsey Muehlbach: Give enough time so that the guests travelling can save again before the next wedding! Otherwise they will all come to the first wedding and then not have enough to come to the 2nd one. Or be able to take more time off to come to the 2nd one.I think I would have a few months at the very minimum e.g. one during the first week of spring, the other during the last week of autumn. Although personally I'd probably make one of them the next year. Particularly if your family is planning on putting in some money for these weddings and you want all of the out of town guests to come to both weddings....Show more
Myriam Hetjonk: if you were invited and it said "your name..and guest! " then it really doesn't matter who you bring. its not inappropriate to bring him it just might be a little awkward...for the both of you... only being broken up a month is kind of a short time..if might not look good for you either for him to see you with a new guy so soon after you guys split
Myron Leftwich: We live in separate cities and will be getting married in different states.
Betsey Copp: I wouldn't even date a person with a different religion (or any religion at all).
Vince Delarge: First off, remember you are dealing with your future mother in law. This is your day, but hurting her feelings by not involving her could ruin any future relationship you may have with her, not to mention upset the groom. My fiance's mother lives many states away so I try to keep her informed on ideas and other exciting wedding stuff through emails and phone calls. I also ask for her opinion. This is a big day for her as well - keep that in mind. Good luck!...Show mor! e
Jesse Pirieda: My fiance's sister got engaged like 2 years befo! re us and planned their wedding for this coming summer (August). My fiance and I got engaged this past November and decided to get married this May (before his sister). We obviously asked his sister and her fiance if they were ok with that, and they were totally fine and very understanding, since we're older than them and already paying rent, bills, etc., so it makes sense for us to get married now, whereas they are just getting out of college. Bottom line, you each have to decide what you want (ie, I wanted a spring wedding, my fiance's sister wanted summer) and then agree to coordinate with each other and communicate often.I would say keep at least 2 months between the weddings, 3 or more is better....Show more
Nicolas Cooley: considering u have family far away u need to give them notice.id say whoever got engaged first even by hours can have theirs first or the elder sister if they cant decide and have it spring/summer 2009 the other should have theirs spring su! mmer 2011 would be appropriate or even 2010 if she wants.good luck!...Show more
Felicitas Phildor: well seeing you have family out of the country one of you should postpone and wait till next year.. and if that doesnt work maybe have it the same weekend? so that your guest dont have to travel twice.. you may even run into family not being able to afford the travel twice
Garrett Detone: Relatives are coming from "all around the country" not "out of the country."
Cletus Crotts: I think if it was true love, religion and such things wouldnt matter. You accept them for how they are and not try to change them, because you're in love with that person through and through.
Keven Woodington: I personally wouldn't change anything about myself for anyone. I don't care if he was the only guy on the planet, I still wouldn't. If somebody wouldn't marry me just because of my religion, then they aren't worth it and not the right person for me. What I believe is, "Wha! t you see is what you get".
Donnell Mollo: Since you have family ! out of the country you should try and have them where they don’t have to travel twice. I would think either the same weekend. One on Saturday the other on Sunday, or within a week of each other
Lahoma Beadell: ok, I think that one should be in the range of March-June and the other in August-November. Or one can be in 2009 by the month of October, and the other in the begging of 2010.I think it would be fun to help each other out with each others weddings, being maids of honors.
Rickey Vrieze: I would never ask someone to convert, but I also think having different religions can be complicated.For instance, if you are a christian, and he is a satanist, that could cause some problems.Personally I am an atheist, and I don't think I could respect someone enough to marry them if they believed in the idea of gods.
Mohamed Szollosi: If your invitation said "T W and guest" then yes, you may bring anyone you choose. If it was simply addressed to you only, you may! not bring a guest.That said, if you were invited BEFORE the break up, it is safe to consider yourself uninvited now.If you go anyway, make sure you aren't dragging along the new boyfriend just to show him off. It will be quite obvious, make you look desperate and probably scare away the new bf....Show more
Marcelle Vanlith: I would not convert. If he doesn't want me as I am then he never really wanted me.
Tommy Durrenberger: I would not suggest taking your new boyfriend. Just go by yourself. This break-up is still something sudden, and it would not be appropriate to bring a new boyfriend. It would only cause conflict. Your ex's sister wants you to be there for her and this is a happy moment. Bringing him would only cause conflict.
Chris Coggins: Yes - Leave at least 6 months in between weddings unless you want all of your relatives showing up to the first wedding and none going to the second wedding.You can still be each others MOHs but you will need to! rely more heavily on other bridesmaids because you will be busy planni! ng your own weddings. Consider each having two MOHs to help out....Show more
Ruby Martis: BEST WISHES!!! The best thing to do is call your friend/ex's sister. She values you as a person and a friend. Come on....she invited you to her wedding. If it were me, I would go with one of my guy friends...I know you have a few.By the way....Go girl! (NEW boyfriend after a month)
Karl Samiec: I think the role of the "mother of the groom" is very important. For my upcoming wedding, I have told my future mother-in-law to wear what she wants to wear; whatever she is comfortable in. I appreciate her in-put just as I would appreciate my mother's advice.
Basil Blasingame: I would say No. The sister maybe still likes you but i don't think she would appreciate that you bring the one that now replaces her lovely brother, besides the fact that you ended things in a friendly terms I don't think is appropriated, plus if I was your boyfriend i would definitely would feel "awkwa! rd". Go solo or invite a girlfriend and enjoy the weeding. Good luck.
Fritz Sisomphou: im curious to know as well, but more along the lines of where should i include her?
Dexter Dicostanzo: Are they just one more guest? Should they be pushed around by the bride. Should they stay out of the whole thing and simple wear what they are told to wear and appear at the time and place they are told to...
Cherry Stampka: Someone who wanted their spouse to be of their religion would not even date outside of their religion, let alone propose. Therefore this question is irrelevant, or the person who is trying to force the other to convert is simply looking for an excuse to not marry said person.Seeing as I am an Atheist, no I would not fake belief in a religion for a man.
Clay Lipira: Depends on the wedding and relationship. Really, the wedding is 'all about the bride'. Let her have her day and be a little monster (it sounds like she is). Don't let a fight ove! r the wedding affect your relationship - she may hold it against you an! d cut you off from the grandkids...You could plan the 'day after brunch' party. Good luck!...Show more
Catheryn Small: Since your original connection to the girl was through your ex, I say you shouldn't go unless you and your ex are on really friendly terms. You especially shouldn't bring your new boyfriend. You don't want to possibly cause any problems on someone else's wedding day.
Stan Conley: well honestly i think you guys should have at-least one month to two month between your wedding as my sister is getting married and there i a lot of work so i think that your wedding is the most perfect day for you and your what every thing perfect as that the day your looking for the word perfection in everything so you hould have enough time that you could manage that
Coleman Senn: Me and my husband got married December 2007 and his sister got married September 2007. I think 2-3 months is a reasonable time
Zora Mazzie: My brother and I both got married ! last year. Do what works for you. My brother had to come from overseas twice to attend and he didn't mind. You need to give the overseas guests a chance to decide for themselves. Continue with your separate wedding plans. It's not the end of the world if some of your or your sisters guests cannot attend. It's your day don't let anyone ruin it for you by pressuring you.
Rachell Meese: Wow, that sucks, but it will be hard on your parents, and family to have to do everything twice so close together
Russel Gajate: In case it wasn't clear, *because* we are getting married in separate states, it will be MORE difficult for our relatives if we have our weddings the same weekend...not less. My sister and her fiance are set on being married in our home church -- my fiance and I are set on being married in my fiances church. Since they are in separate states, it doesn't make sense to have our weddings the same weekend or within a week of one another. Also, our parents are! n't helping to pay for either wedding....Show more
Rick Duchane: ! Depends on whether or not I investigated his religion and compared it to the Bible to see if it was correct.
Mikel Bethay: I think it is best to go by yourself. I think it would be wrong to take your boyfriend to ex*-boy friends sisters wedding and his family might not feel to comfortable. I think your first feeling was right that it wouldn't be appropriate. Yes go by yourself and be friendly to your ex.
Maritza Ebanks: Kick him to the curb GIRL FRIEND !!!!!!!!!
Coy Tapley: I would either go by myself or take one of my FEMALE friends. It's tacky and rude to bring an new boyfriend to your ex's sister's wedding. I assume you two were together for awhile if you are so close to his sisters. If you are still unsure if you should even go, call up the bride and ask her how she feels about it, it is her day. Good luck!
Percy Seiger: Why would you want to tell her what to wear? She is not a bridesmaid, let her wear what she wants. The groom's parents a! re "supposed" to due the rehersal dinner. And the groom and his mother hav e a special dance too. Let her help when she wants to help, don't just push her to the side.
Leora Klingelhoets: I would go alone. You dont want any problems between u and your ex and your new boyfriend. Good Luck and god bless
Wilburn Denice: Your situation sounds like mine-except reversed. My fiance and his brother-they are both getting married in same year.My future BIL had been with his girlfriend, now fiance for several years when my fiance and I met. So, after we met and started dating, he told his brother, look, this is where things are headed...if you are going to propose, well...We both knew the girlfriend was ready. She had said something to us.Short end to the story....future BIL is getting married in April. We are getting married in October. He is getting married in SoCal. We are getting married in Vegas.I am also in his brother's wedding. Only tip is to be aware of costs for ! both.Good luck....Show more
Gregg Hagge: well if he decided he wo! uld not marry me then he would no longer be my fiance. it would depend, i would like to think that if he wasnt willing to marry me then he wouldnt bother dating me in the first place
Bryant Chaudhry: There is no rule here and nothing says that you could not have your weddings even just one week apart. The real question here is that since you will be calling on the same group of people to travel, attend and bring gifts you both should take that in to consideration.I am sorry but the real solution would be to have that double wedding but that is for you to decide....Show more
Danette Slotnick: Three months would be ideal, for family near and far.
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