Oren Eskelsen: Not that I've ever heard from. They accept the fact that some body fluids will touch their skin. It may be your wife's way of making you feel bad that you had sex, when she didn't really want to.
Rona Ising: I think your trust is broken. He's defending his relationship with her (judging from his comments), and telling you that YOU can leave if you can't deal with it? That's asking you to accept what he's done and what he might do again ....because suddenly it's all up to him? And he's now using the godson as an excuse for you to accept the relationship he's acquired with the Mother? No, No, and No.The fact that one of your questions was about him 'allowing you to associate with any of your past flings" also indicates to me that the both of you have broken trust. You don't really want to be only with him? You are willing to stray also? Or, was that a ploy to get even, and/or do what he's doing for payback?It all sounds pretty destroyed frankly ! and doomed. Both of you sounds testy and immature, and/or angry and resentful of each other. 9 months is a long time, but you've learned a lot about his guy, and about yourself. Is this someone you imagine yourself spending you life with? If not, then I suggest you move on before it's been a year or two or more, and guaranteed, you'll be in the same boat....both with him and with yourself.Define what YOU want in a relationship, BE that person, and accept nothing less....Show more
Fannie Collingwood: she isn't afraid of germs. she says it is the feeling she hates.
Jed Mutone: If Christ did not marry, why shoudl you marry ?
Russel Gajate: She is unable to do this..........once you file you are given a court date. Then you have to serve her with the papers.......its up to her whether she turns up for court or not..............but even if she doesnt turn up as long as she has been served, the divorce will go through.
Shelley Stevens: Then you can do! the divorce papers yourself.
Myriam Hetjonk: Thanx.
!Ayesha Genova: U need to talk about this, make sure ur not in bed and no one else is around. Sometimes women can become paranoid about getting pregnant or think of sperm as dirty , but the only way to find out is ask.U also need to tell her u feel rejected by her actions.
Len Dalba: probably she doesn't want to divorce she still loves you etc maybe
Andre Winegar: Ive been seeing this guy for over nine months now. We've known eachother for about 12 years prior to us getting together. Before we got together, we became good friends and I never had any intention on getting with him(was NOT my type) so we told eachother a lot about our past. He revealed to me about a girl who he proclaimed to be his best friends and how they dated on a whim but he said he never had any attraction to her even when they were together. He also told me they never slept together while they were in a relationship. They broke up, remained "best friends" and she even had a baby during tha! t time and my boyfriend is the godfather. Anyways, as time goes on, we end up becoming an item and as a result, me and his best friend bumped head. She still thought she deserved his time and would blow up his phone even though he would be talking to me because she wasn't used to someone else having his attention. This obviously made me dislike her and we bumped heads a few times. My boyfriend limited contact with her as our relationship progressed and at one point, completely stopped talking to her. I always told him that even though they arent friends, he should still remain a dependable godfather. Everytime I said this, he let it go in one ear and out the other and still treated her like crap. Sometimes I would get lenient and be content with them becoming friends and other days, memories came to life and I hated her all over again..so my emotions were pretty confusing, but all in all, he really didnt talk to her. A few months later, me and my boyfriend got into a fight ! and in 24 hours of that fight, they sleep together. He admitted this to! me when we got back together. I was very hurt but at the same time, we werent together and I had my own indiscretions while we broke up...its just that he slept with someone who he knew he couldnt shun from his life forever which leaves me to deal with her since her son is his godson, he can't just let her out of his life...or so he says.But even then, after he admitted, he didn't talk to her much...but just recently, they're "best of friends" again. I keep telling him how I feel uncomfortable about him being with her alone but he doesn't care..he said to me, "She is not any random chick. I will not stop talking to her. She is my best friend and I am finally getting close to my godson and if you can't deal with it, then you can leave". It hurt me so much because at one point, he could care less about her!!My question is this: Is this relationship doomed?Why can't he still be a godfather to her son but not be a friend to her?Why won't he allow me to associate with any of my! past flings just because they don't have a definite part in my life?Should I just leave him?Do you think he is being unfair?Am I being unfair?And last but not least, am I wrong for being hurt, untrusting and weary of their relationship?I mean, you don't have to answer every question but just give me a rundown on what you think!...Show more
Oswaldo Rayburn: Your wife cannot forced to to say married to her - it's up to you to take the intuitive and get the final paperwork done - once you have a court date the judge decides and her neglecting to sign won't stop you from being a single man again.
Alphonso Brake: I think it probably just comes from individual like and dislikes. Like some people will not use public bathrooms, ya know? Does she NOT use public bathrooms?No, it is not the same for other woman. Not for me anyways, IDC one way or another.
Cristopher Gavalis: Get an attorney or legal service involved. They can arrange to have your wife "served"! . She will be given documents to complete and a court date. If she does! n't comply or respond, the scales would definitely tilt in your favor. Another option is to move to another state, where residency is established within a relatively short period of time (check out Nevada). Procrastination would not be to her advantage
Solomon Belback: /helpforchristians
Gene Debell: I don't mind my husband's sperm touching my skin. that is what bathtubs and showers are for when you need freshening up.
Rayford Speziale: The common cure for these types of phobias is exposure therapy.
Irma Poiter: don't need it right now
Toshia Metzker: Have her served with paperwork. She won't have to sign it, per se, but she'll have 30 days to respond or else your decree is what goes before the judge. And this way you can eventually force court.
Hilma Pestano: Not to my knowledge. Your wife perhaps thinks sex is all icky and disgusting anyway, which is why she's never in the mood.
Evelin Turlich: www.groups.yahoo.com/groups/hel! pforchristians/
Coleman Deliberato: Petition the divorce yourself and she can't stop the proceedings. There are deadlines.
Rayford Latz: I try to control as much as I can, but she always complains if she gets at all touched by any sperm or fluids. She doesn't mind, it seems when she is really in the mood, but 95% of the time she isn't, so its a problem.Is this the same for other women?
Virgilio Echter: You can get past her on this by talking to the judge Yourself and he will set a specific deadline...Your ex will be notified..And if she continues to drag it out when that deadline date comes you will be grantedthe divorce
Rosella Figliola: nobody can keep someone married against their will. if you file yourself your wife may contest but it will simply delay the inevitable.
Travis Colomb: When my husband first started going to church with me he was asked to lead a prayer and he did. He itemized all the things he was Thankful for in a 15 minute ! prayer. From the freedoms we have iin this country to the fresh water w! e have to drink and the love of family and friends. After Church a hundred ladies must of told me how blessed I was to have such a man in my life. I was crying hysterically by then because I didn't know who that man was. That wasn't the same man that lived with me although I know his sincerity in his heart it just wasn't shown to me. We had Christian counseling with many different preachers and therapists only to be going through a divorce still. I know more people who are not Christians that have saved their marriages through affairs and drugs and alcohol and other serious troubles but my husbands love for the remote control was greater than his love for me. He told me he wasn't responsible for my happiness and to a point he was right but he was totally responsible for my misery. I left him. I was wrong and handled it badly but do you think this Christian man will forgive me? He won't! But hopefully you can reach some other couples before it gets farther out of control tha! n mine did. God Bless You! We ALL need counseling at times....Show more
Bryant Pillitteri: I don't think he can be an involved godfather and not have a relationship of some kind with this woman. Not all godparents are closely attached to the children. It's his decision on how tight he want that relationship. But, if chooses to have a very involved and tight relationship with the kid, then you would have to accept this woman as part of the package. Then, you will have to worry about them becoming attracted to each other again. If you can live with that, then so be it. Maybe you can get him to move and put some distance between them. Otherwise, it's going to be a relationship full of suspicion while she's around. When he tells you to accept it or leave, I think he's making his choice....Show more
Jarrod Darnall: I think it depends on the girl. Ive been out with loads of women and some like it and some hate it. But that all the time not a yes one minute and ! a no the next.Talk to her about it.If she has just dolled herself up I ! can understand but if she is just in her normal clothes cant understand....Show more
Esmeralda Pigram: yes, hold hands and say this prayer out loud at same time:Life's Problems: One Solution Accept Jesus Christ by saying this little prayer Out-Loud, He truly is The Easy Button:"Lord Jesus, I believe You are the Son of God. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask You in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve You always." AmenHe can repair all brokenness, dis pare, anger issues,addictions,hatred,cutting yourself,gays,lesbians,bi-sexual,evil dreams, evil thoughts,nightmares, pornography, divorce....on and on. Why would I give you this prayer if it didn't work? What benefit would I get spending my time giving it out? God exists and He is waiting to hear you say the prayer so He can help you!After you and your family say this prayer pass it on and help other's we All Need God! . God can help you if you ask him in....Show more
Tereasa Sorensen: I thought christians weren't allowed to divorce or if they did they were going to hell?
Gene Debell: The reason I didn't leave when I found out was because: 1. I thought I could get over it2. I did it too3. I know that when I slept with someone else, I still loved my boyfriend and cared for him so much and it was just trying to fill his place...Show more
Garrett Detone: No, for the reason that the one you marry isn't your enemy. I do not believe that white folks are an enemy to my race for the reason that the one's who are I often don't dangle with me or talk to me. Certain there are white humans that hate me considering that of the color of my skin but I doubt they are waiting in line to marry or date me. Some white persons have achieved dangerous matters to folks of unique races and nonetheless do however there are excellent white individuals who need nothing but love and respect for eve! ryone....Show more
Caleb Chapman: Thank you Jimmy. It is people ! like you that will make a difference in this world. Let's face it, people basically want to do good and when one is a Christian there seems to be even more pressure. When Christians have problems, including marital problems, there seems to be an added embarrassment to the mix. They don't want to have it look like they are in that fix because they aren't good Christians, so something stupid like that. What the world needs to know is that Christians believe in Christ, they aren't Christ, therefore they make mistakes, bad choices and try to get through life the best they can. The difference is that when Christians make mistakes, the debt owed for that mistake (sin) has already been paid. Pretty cool really. The point being, (as I got a tad off the actual point), is that Christians need a place to go to work out their problems and try to make things better. Do Christians get divorced? Sure they do. Do they hurt and grieve like everyone else over the loss of the relati! onship? Sure they do. Thanks for giving them a good place to go....Show more
Porfirio Cahall: leave, Leave, LEAVE!!!You are just asking for yourself to get heartbroken.
Elden Dedon: Assuming you've served her with paperwork, there should be a date on which you're supposed to appear in court. If she hasn't completed the paperwork, or doesn't show up, then the court will simply dissolve the union based on your petition for divorce. She can't force you to remain married.
Angelyn Ducas: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/helpforchristians/
Estrella Northway: get your own lawyer and file yourself she can't stop it then
Fred Caminita: No, I don't think that's common.Is she someone who likes things really clean and has a thing about germs? That's what it sounds like to me.
Jammie Taddei: I already asked this questions, got two answers but they are making me realize I need to leave. I just want unbiased opinions and honestly, I want peoople to te! ll me why to leave...because I want to leave so bad, I am so hurt. But ! I can't do it by myself!
Cierra Gadbaw: i think of it is spectacular what you're doing. people who're having severe problems want a place to communicate to different Christians and not get clever feedback and sarcasm from people who don't understand or are not non secular.
Bob Nakamoto: no but my bf freaks out that they will burrow in his skin and cant have it touch him LOL
Barton Sease: She is procrastinating on something that is obviously inevitable. You can go to th courts and pay a fee and have he paper work completed by a judge. Go to the family court office and ask them how you can proceed and they will give you the best advice.
Ron Keliipio: Then join the following group. It's a place for Christians who are planning, going through, or been through a divorce. It's also for Christians with family and domestic problems. This question and group are serious. Please do not report this message. I created it so people can know where to get help. www.g! roups.yahoo.com/groups/helpforchristians/Thank You...Show more
Foster Padgette: Maybe you ought to work on getting her "really in the mood" the other 95% of the time.No, I don't think it's common. Does she also ***** if you mess up her hair?
Jesse Pirieda: He slept with her 24 hrs. after you broke up. That tells me that your relationship is doomed, he can still be a godfather, he won't allow you to associate with past flings because he is projection and yes, you should leave him.He's not fair, but I don't know if you are. You are NOT wrong for being hurt. I would have left as soon as I found out.
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